Dear Dog Lady,

I live with my daughter. We just put down her golden retriever and are devastated. How do I get over the grief? I am 81 and he was my daytime buddy. I feel my purpose in life is gone and my other children and families live out of state so there are no hugs available. My daughter is not a hugger and has chosen to isolate herself when home. Non dog lovers cannot understand the grief we feel. I've lost my best friend.

Sue

Dear Sue,

You overcome grief by seeking new opportunities to hug fur. Think of creative ways to fill the gap. Consider becoming a daytime dog sitter for a single older dog while the owner is at work. Devoted dog keepers are always on the lookout for a sensible, humane daycare solution. Nothing makes more sense than a seasoned minder like you watching out for a grown-up, well-behaved dog. You could advertise through the local pet shop, veterinarian, or ask your daughter to help you make a connection through neighborhood contacts.

Dear Dog Lady,

We are big fans of your column and would love your advice. We have a two and a half year old Cairn terrier. He is wonderful dog and loves every person he meets. He used to love every dog he met too. But in the last six to nine months, he has become more dog-aggressive with dogs he does not know. He will pull the leash and growl until paths have crossed, especially if the other dog is being restrained or pulled back in any way by its owner.

We have socialized our pup since he was three months old. Bit by bit, his behavior has worsened when he is unleashed around other dogs. He seems to get so excited that he cannot control himself, creating situations where we have to leave due to his chasing and inappropriate actions towards other dogs. Now it has started even on his leashed walks with dogs he does not know, but not with every unfamiliar dog. He is fine with dogs he plays with in the area. We would love to get him back to some free play with other dogs but we cannot make the experience unpleasant or worse for other dog lovers just to satisfy our needs. Is there something we can do when he acts up?

Steve

Dear Steve,

You're overthinking. A Cairn terrier is feisty. Technically, he's still a puppy and he's still feeling his oats. When dogs play-and invite other dogs to play-their posturing resembles the Wide World of wrestling-faux ferocity.

Your Cairn terrier does not sound like a vicious dog and, indeed, your complaint never mentions the "b" words-bite and blood. You speak of "inappropriate actions." This could mean anything in the canine realm. Dog Lady draws the line when teeth are bared, backs bristle and tails stand straight up. If you see any of these scary signs from your dog or a dog close by, you know you have trouble ahead. If not, it's bowser bluster and an invitation to play.

When a pet's conduct changes suddenly, the cause could also be organic. Have your Cairn checked out by veterinarian to rule out any medical reasons. Feel heartened because he does get along with some other dogs, which is a very good sign.

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